Self confidence is just a state of mind

It is a way of thinking that brings conviction to our conversations and security to our smiles. Its power is undeniable and magnetising. With a confident air you can have an entire room listening to you speak. Even if your topic isn’t particularly captivating, you can be. With self confidence you generate a positive energy that radiates charm. Men and women alike want to be around people who embody this strength. Being this confident is easier than you think.

Confidence is a small word, which can make a BIG difference to our lives and the way we see ourselves. None of us are born either with or without it, but – starting through childhood - all the events that happen to us - things that are said to us - and the way we react to them go to build a state that pushes our persona in a particular direction. These are the building blocks of the way we are, the person we have become…..it is really all down to the way we represent the world to ourselves. And therein lies the key clue to the way we can turn things round. With guidance towards reframing events and the way we have internally interpreted them, we can start to see the world – and ourselves – in a new light.

Take a look at the people who step up and talk in front of a crowd or mix with ease at parties or have the courage and the coolness to take on a new task unfazed, or consistently fulfill their potential. Confident and assured. How do you compare with them? Are these qualities you would like to have? How would your life be altered by being that kind of person. Just imagine if you could take on the world with a confident stride in your step.

Here are some examples where you will draw upon your reserves of self confidence:

• Pre-test or exam nerves
• Dating
• Public speaking
• Fear of rejection
• Interviews
• Giving a presentation
• Stage fright
• Fear of social events

Everyone has insecurities, but some of us struggle with this more than others. We may have doubts about our physical attractiveness, or are unhappy with a particular aspect of our appearance. We may feel we don’t measure up to others intellectually or are uncomfortable about the way we speak. The repetitive outcome of this is - we are left feeling defeated and unsure of ourselves.

Sometimes even the confident become “gagged” when caught outside their familiar surroundings or comfort zone. It all goes to show our susceptibility to self-doubt and surprise when we get caught off guard in the “headlights”. It might just be one particular person or place that makes this happen for us. It’s pretty natural for us all to be uneasy and reticent of new circumstances or meeting new people - but when it takes on the proportions of a phobia, and we can’t speak a word without our heart racing at breakneck speed, it’s time we took a look at what foundations our lives are built on.

You don’t need Dutch Courage in whatever doses do it best for you, because that wears off and doesn’t get to the heart of the matter – the REAL answer lies within yourself. By re-programming and utilizing your wonderful unconscious mind, you can give yourself the freedom to enjoy every situation – the chance to communicate in ways you’ve always wished for – to display a positive and attractive body language – to make every step you take along life’s highway feel like walking on air.

Building Self Confidence and Self Esteem

Because self confidence is such a natural and basic resource, lack of it is often one of the reasons for a whole range of other problems and difficulties. Building self confidence therefore is such an important task. The need to build self confidence and self-esteem has an impact on many facets of a person’s life. And with the use of hypnotic trancework your self-image, self-esteem and confidence can be elevated to new high levels.

The Building Process

The process is very straightforward, and starts with a chat so we can get to know each other with answers to a variety of questions. It’s possible you may want some explanations and reassurances about hypnosis – I’ll explain the timetable of our sessions and what areas I’ll be guiding your mind towards.

A lot of the sessions may at first seem very conversational, but the trancework part of the programme simply involves going into a deeply relaxed state where you are able to access your unconscious mind, where your thoughts are stored. When you get into dialogue with your unconscious your negative thought patterns can be replaced with positive ones through hypnotic suggestion.
With guidance you can learn to be more relaxed in every situation of your life, and you will have a more positive attitude towards everything and everyone. The way you talk to yourself and think about yourself will be different, too. Instead of being filled with doubt and negative self talk, you will have a much more positive and confident attitude about yourself.
As part of my “aftercare” I would show you how to use self hypnosis – and you could then use this as a “quick booster” before stressful events if necessary.

Before presentations, meetings, social events - whatever used to stress you out before - relax deeply for say 15-30 minutes and then proceed to enjoy the event totally confident and at ease with yourself.

So instead of those nerves making you self conscious, stammering or stumble over words, or a sub-par performance, the new you will be like the other people you’ve always admired. Just imagine what it would be like to take on the world with confident strides……emboldening and compelling isn’t it…….

As always – all you’ll need is there within you. It is just a matter of finding the right key to unlock that door. All I’ll be doing is helping to guide you towards cutting the right key to release and help you empower yourself with a new sense of self confidence.

If you’d like to know more then call or email me ….take those first steps on a new and exciting journey. You’ll be amazed at how quickly the benefits will start to accrue……

Peter Wright Hypnotherapy

Online and throughout South and West England